Buffet of crap
by Livy-Elcon Emereonye
Preparing for a buffet or a jamboree party is fun, but such anticipation can become worrisome and an object of anguish and anger, if not regret, where the buffet is but a buffet of shit! Oh yes, of what use is a meal party that ends with constipation, diarrheoa and hospitalization?
Surprise!
There’s no end to what the human mind can think — the good, the bad and the ugly — but certain thoughts and actions can make the dead wriggle in the grave.
Some people believe they are the best among equals and with such belief, they stretch their lucks, claiming the powers they never had and will never exercise.
With a premeditated intention, a group interest would be announced and pursued with expired vigour. But can someone who shut a person at close range be the one to conduct a surgery to remove the bullets? May your adversary never preside over your case.
To be smart by half, some people lost the sense of reason and expose their folly. In fighting an imaginary enemy, one can lose relevance with ease. Or how else can you view an elder or a purported leader who speaks from the two sides of his mouth to a table of double standards?
You can’t blackmail and backstab a man and still expect him to confide in you for whatever reason.
Being strangers in a jungle we should strive to live in such a way to continue to live even when we must have gone — and to achieve this, one should not be obsessed with evil, but it is unfortunate that some people have a penchant for destroying others, creating enmity where none existed, and brag at their stupidity!
Why do men plot iniquity, speak with froward mouths and live by the sword, looking for whom to destroy? What is the motivation for crime?
In exhibition of complex behaviours anything and everything is possible.
Who is an enemy?
An enemy may not be the person who engaged you in an open fight: the true enemy might be the individual you dine and wine without borders. Look through the picture very well, and you can see many things.
The concept, knowledge, and practice of enmity is the best way to define an enemy. If you have an enemy (real or imaginary), you would understand better.
“The term “enemy” can have different meanings depending on the context:
i. Personal enemy: Someone who harbours hatred, hostility, or opposition towards another person.
ii. National enemy: A person, group, or nation that poses a threat to a country’s safety, security, or interests.
iii. Enemy combatant: A person who engages in armed conflict against a state or its armed forces.
iv. Enemy of the state: A person or group considered a threat to a nation’s sovereignty, security, or stability.
v. Figurative enemy: A concept, idea, or situation that opposes or hinders progress, happiness, or well-being (e.g., “poverty is the enemy of prosperity”).
In general, an enemy is someone or something that opposes, resists, or seeks to harm or defeat another person, group, or entity.”
“An enemy is typically someone who:
- Harbours hatred or hostility towards you or your group.
- Opposes or resists your goals, values, or beliefs.
- Seeks to harm or defeat you physically, emotionally, or psychologically.
- Engages in conflict or competition against you.
- Undermines or sabotages your efforts or progress.
Enemies can be individuals, groups, organizations, or even abstract concepts (like poverty, disease, or addiction). Keep in mind that having an enemy doesn’t necessarily mean a physical confrontation; it can also be a metaphorical or ideological opposition.
However, the focus of this work is on the personal enemy.
It should be noted that not everyone who disagrees with you is an enemy.
Enemies exhibit intentional harm or malice, whereas disagreements can often lead to growth and understanding!
What is the reason for enmity; what are the causes and consequences of enmity?
“Enmity can arise from various factors, including:
Causes:
a. Misunderstandings or miscommunications
b. Differences in values, beliefs, or opinions
c. Competition or rivalry
d. Past conflicts or traumas
e. Power struggles or control issues
f. Jealousy or envy
g. Cultural or social differences
h. Historical grievances or injustices
i. Personal attacks or insults
j. Unmet expectations or perceived betrayals
Consequences:
a. Conflict or violence
b. Emotional distress or trauma
c. Damaged relationships or social isolation
d. Loss of trust or respect
e. Decreased productivity or performance
f. Increased stress or anxiety
g. Physical health problems
h. Difficulty in finding common ground or resolving issues
i. Creation of enemies or adversaries
j. Cyclical pattern of retaliation or revenge.
Understanding the causes and consequences of enmity can help individuals and groups address and resolve conflicts more effectively, leading to improved relationships, personal growth, and a more harmonious environment.
Besides pictures of horrible looking people, your true enemy may not be that person you had disagreement with, but your confidant and a member of your “family” or close associate who subtly, out of complex, go out to pull you down despite communing and communicating with you.
How do you know the real enemy?
Appearance can be deceitful, and to achieve a premeditated goal, anything can happen. Don’t be carried away when dealing with people. Be cautious. Our true characters manifest when faced with critical issues. With a change of position comes a change of loyalty, and at that time you might discover that the ones you denied yourself of comfort to advance their causes would not blink an eye to betray you and make sure you are in pains.
Again nothing unites people more than having a common enemy. If you have what they lack but covet, they will gang up against you…
How best can one fight an enemy?
Is it possible to eat from the same pot with an enemy?
Your answer is as good as mine.
The way forward when faced with an enemy or enemies is not simple and straight.
“Dealing with enmity can be challenging, but here are some strategies to help:
- Stay calm and composed: Emotions can escalate conflicts. Remain calm to think clearly and respond wisely.
- Communicate effectively: Clarify misunderstandings, listen actively, and express yourself assertively.
- Set boundaries: Establish clear limits to protect yourself from harm or toxicity.
- Seek common ground: Look for shared interests or goals to build bridges and diffuse tension.
- Practice empathy: Try to understand the other person’s perspective and feelings.
- Focus on shared humanity: Recognize that enemies are still human beings deserving of respect and dignity.
- Seek mediation: If necessary, involve a neutral third party to facilitate resolution.
- Practice forgiveness: Let go of grudges and resentments for your own well-being.
- Maintain a healthy distance: Prioritize self-care and surround yourself with positive influences.
- Seek support: Reach out to friends, family, or professionals for guidance and encouragement.
Dealing with enmity requires patience, understanding, and a willingness to find peaceful solutions.”
Whatever the case, an open enemy is better than a pretended friend.
Watch your back.
The animal called man can spring surprises atimes, betraying trust and wasting lives with reckless abandon. It’s funny and ridiculous that the same people who fast and pray for a better tomorrow for themselves and family members cannot blink an eye in destroying others.
Were men to be God, who can live?
However, man is not God – and God is God! In His infinite mercy every work of Nature is available for all, most times free of charge: air, light, Sun, moon, rain…
Had it occurred to us that whoever and whatever we are claim to be, we are important for a while; regardless of our achievements and possessions, we live to die and die to nourish the earth; we would have conducted our lives in different positive ways without a complex of either left or right, but this is not the case. We have mortals that claim immortality and weaklings that play God!
If you can be true to yourself and be true to others, your enemies will make the mistakes that will advance your cause.
Be security conscious. Preserve your life and protect your territory; do your best not to be a part of terrible publicity or negative statistics.
